The elder abuse of assisted suicide vs. authentic compassion

The pastor was worried.  Ever since Washington’s so-called Death with Dignity Act legalized assisted suicide, he’d noticed an uptick in calls from elderly parishioners wondering if they should stop routine medical treatment for heart disease or diabetes, get “qualified” as terminally ill, and avail themselves of the life-ending suicide drugs marketed as “aid-in-dying” by unprincipled relatives and smooth-talking pro-suicide groups.

Several seniors told the pastor of increased pressure from adult children to “stop taking your medications and die” so the children could have access to funds currently being spent on assisted living apartments and nursing homes.  These victims of elder abuse, faced with a barrage of media information about the costs of elder care, pressure from greedy relatives, and a growing internal sense of “being a burden,” actually considered ending their lives.

Such is the ugly unpublished underbelly of the pro-suicide/assisted suicide movement.  Despite glowing descriptions of compassion and control, the template of manipulative coercion and outright elder abuse described by this pastor and others is all too common.

So, what to do?  How can individuals, families, and communities do a better job at decreasing the lethal market for suicide and assisted suicide?  How do we establish safe harbors in medical and senior care?  What positive resources are available to support at risk populations and prevent elder abuse?

True Compassion Advocates has created a wealth of resources and information to prevent these elders and others with chronic illnesses and disabilities from being coerced into considering suicide and assisted suicide.

A summary of current TCA’s endeavors follows:   Contact us for more information about how to make a life-saving difference in your family or community.

Neighbor to Neighbor Outreach

What do family members and friends chronic health condition or illnesses have in common with elderly neighbors or co-workers with disabilities?  The answer?  Both are high risk populations who frequently have inadequate access to supportive resources and may feel they are a burden.  Simple outreach and neighborly concern can go a long way towards decreasing the market for suicide and assisted suicide and improving support for those at risk.  A kind word or action, a check-in visit, phone call, or email can make a world of difference.  Lend a helping hand, make a meal, reach out with concern. See TCA’s excellent resources on caregiver resources, including organizations which can help, serious illness support, aging with courage, and suicide prevention.

Education & Information

Ever wonder how to get the vital information you or someone you know needs with regard to medical decision making?   TCA partners with individuals and communities to bring dynamic, up-to-date educational resources presentations, and workshops. We have a broad array of news articles, informational materials, and brochures available for distribution. Our brochure, The Simple Guide for Medical Care and Decision-Making is an excellent brief overview of health care decisions, including what questions to ask and an overview of pain control, hospice care, and assisted suicide. Please contact us to order brochures or to inquire about the presentations and workshop we present in communities nationwide.

Safe Harbors

Each person, family, and community has the right to recieve health care they can trust with their lives. They have a right to know if their hospital, senior living facility, or health care provider offers excellent care to vulnerable ill people or lethal drug overdoses. Before choosing a provider, call or write and ask if they offer safe harbor from assisted suicide or elder abuse. Writing Letters/ Contacting Health Care Providers

Tell us your stories

Many family members have emailed us or called us to tell us their experiences and challenges with caring for ill loved ones, finding health care providers they can trust with their lives, and episodes of assisted suicide, along with concerns of elder abuse, or suicide promotion. Please feel free to contact us if you’d like to tell us your story or receive information or support. Just knowing you aren’t alone can make a world of difference.

Communities for Compassionate Care(CCC)

TCA works collaboratively with organizations and communities such as the newly forming Communities for Compassionate Care which offers life-affirming health care, pastoral support, and community-based services to increase support during aging, disability, illness, and caregiving.  CCC facilitates compassionate connections between people who need help and life-affirming organizations which can assist them.  More info about this exciting new endeavor will be forthcoming.

Supportive Care Gatherings

Peaceful demonstrations of compassion on behalf of those at risk for suicide, assisted suicide, and elder abuse are held at various community locations, including hospitals and senior living facilities. Please call TCA for further news about how you can, literally, walk your talk, save lives, and promote truly compassionate care.

The ‘creeping’ slippery slope of assisted suicide

This article from the April 3, 2009 Times of London is one of the reasons why the slippery slope of physician-assisted suicide has always bothered me so much:

The founder of the Swiss assisted suicide clinic Dignitas was criticised yesterday after revealing plans to help a healthy woman to die alongside her terminally ill husband.

Ludwig Minelli described suicide as a “marvellous opportunity” that should not be restricted to the terminally ill or people with severe disabilities. Critics said that the plans highlighted the risks of proposals to legalise assisted suicides in Britain for people in the final stages of a terminal illness.

The Dignitas clinic in Zurich claims to have assisted in the deaths of more than 100 Britons. The Zurich University Clinic found that more than a fifth of people who had died at Dignitas did not have a terminal condition. (emphasis added)

Mr Minelli said that anyone who has “mental capacity” should be allowed to have an assisted suicide, claiming that it would save money for the NHS.

Oh great — saving money! There’s a good reason!

Lord knows I can sympathize with her distress — the thought of having to live without my husband is horrible.  But people who are depressed and grieving or ill and dying need loving care and support, not lethal drugs.   I cringe at the prospect of this poor woman and her ill husband being ‘encouraged’ to participate in this so-called ‘marvelous opportunity’.  And it only gets worse.  Minelli, who has been investigated by Swiss authorities for extremely questionable practices at his suicide clinic, is an example of just how slippery the slope has become.

Mr Minelli admitted that some of the people who had been helped to die at the clinic had been psychiatric patients with schizophrenia and bipolar disorders. Swiss psychiatrists are refusing to co-operate with Dignitas so the clinic allows patients to provide their own medical papers from Britain.

“We have some problems because all the Swiss organisations of psychiatrists have told the public that they will not make such reports,” he said. “If we would have a psychiatrist from the UK giving an extended report, then no problems.”

To think that a person who is mentally ill — who generally can’t be held responsible for their actions in court — can be “assisted” to commit suicide makes my skin crawl.   The illogic (not to mention immorality) of this is so obvious, why are we even having this discussion?